Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Quick and random thought about church

I think with Christianity the folks who are leaving church can be summed up much more succinctly: Peer Groups and Instant Gratification.

To the later, we no longer have to walk the fields and ponder next steps and big decisions. We no longer ‘wait’ for God to speak to us. We go online. We talk to our global neighbour. We get opposing and confusing views and in many cases, with the decline of those going to church, people don’t have sufficient ‘peer groups’ who can relate to similar struggles, questions, and concerns.

The Church is not an attractive place to many people for a myriad of reasons…not the least can be laid at the doorstep of the breakdown of the Catholic untouchable rightness and the laughable moral consequences of Christian televangelists. Who wants to listen to those beseech what is good whilst themselves engaging or covering up the bad? Sadly, those acts do reflect upon even the kindly local Chaplin or lay-minister.

But at the end of it all I still believe it is indeed Patience and Peers…most churches are unable to provide these simple resources anymore.

~tina

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

A Downsizing Parent (@tmd1313)

The Brant Advocate, Tina Draycott September 15, 2012

To the parents who are dropping off their kids to college or university this fall, much of this will be familiar to you. But it is to those parents whose children are going away to school for the very first time that I dedicate this piece.

As you already know, our jobs are changing. My job is changing to be certain. To put it bluntly, I have been unceremoniously dumped from full-time status to a part-time position. Perhaps not unceremoniously, but either way my career as a parent has just been officially ‘downsized’.

For me, Motherhood is the single most important job I have ever had. Indeed, I am still very much employed as a mom (as I forever shall be) but the duties will be different now. The responsibility for taking care of the human being I brought into the world has been altered, and in some cases, revoked. The centre of my universe is moving on to the next phase of her life. While this is a wonderful opportunity for her, it does serve as a confusing lifestyle upheaval for me. I must be clear: if you think from the previous moaning and wailing that I drove myself to be – or felt that I have been – the perfect Mom, think again. In fact, to be completely honest I had never planned on being a Mom at all.

Many years ago through coincidence, courtship, marriage, and all that other stuff, I found myself inexplicably pregnant. Okay, not inexplicably since I knew how it happened, but I did find myself in a particularly singular position that was never supposed to happen at all. Deep down I felt that I did not want to have children of my own. I did not want to have the responsibility of bringing an innocent life into this world and having to think for two people since most of the time I could barely think for myself. When I found out that I was to be a mom, it put me in an incredibly awkward situation. How was I to be free-spirited, selfish, and fly through life by the seat of my pants if I had a little one? Well, what I found out was that I could still be free-spirited, and I could still fly through life by the seat of my pants. But now it was with her. The surprise was that all the selfishness simply fell away.

And even though my new baby girl and I had a rocky start due to a colicky stage and her flat out refusal to sleep at night, we fell in love. Stupid, crazy, I-will-take-six-bullets-for-her kind of love. What I discovered over the years is she is naturally funny and incredibly compassionate. She does not judge people without giving them a fair shake – all three attributes which frankly I lack. She is the one who will stop and remind ME not to judge people harshly before I make a rash decision. She is the one who would give of her time and patience even if it were the last she had. She took what I tried to teach her as ‘a moral right’ and then showed me how it can be best used toward our fellow human. She is, and will remain, my best accomplishment.

Now she is moving on in the most significant way imaginable. She is exploring her new life away from home. As her parent, I trust that she will be brave and curious and bold, because she will know that at home there will be an amazingly proud Mom waiting to hear all about it. Sadly, by the time you read this piece in the Advocate, my job will have been officially downsized.

To all the downsized parents out there, both old and new, I send you a hug. Trust that you gave your children the tools they will need to explore their world away from home. Remember that in the end, they really do know how much we love and support them.

The part-time duty roster has just been posted, and this new job is sure to be an adventure for us all.

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Knitting for good

I am all about knitting for the good of others right now.  Its important for me to give back since my physical life is so blessed.  So I'm going to make a bunch of these up and just give them out. Friends, family, and even strangers.  I like the pattern and it seems pretty easy to do up quick. Borrowed from Patons and deeply apprecaited!



Classic Wool - Beehive Welt Hat (knit)

A simple combination of knit and purl rows creates this fabulous slouchy hat - perfect for beginners with double-pointed needles. Shown in Patons Classic Wool.

MATERIALS: Patons® Classic Wool Worsted™ (100 g/3.5 oz; 192 m/210 yds)
Set of five size 4.5 mm (U.S. 7) double pointed knitting needles or size needed to obtain tension.

TENSION:
20 sts and 26 rows = 4" [10 cm] in stocking st.

INSTRUCTIONS:
Cast on 104 sts. Divide sts evenly on 4 needles [26 sts per needle]. Join in rnd, placing a marker on first st.

1st rnd: *K1. P1. Rep from * around.

Rep last rnd (K1. P1) ribbing for 1½" [4 cm].


1st to 4th rnds: Knit.


5th to 9th rnds: Purl.


Rep last 9 rnds 9 times more.


Shape top: 1st rnd: *K2. K2tog. Rep from * around. 69 (78) sts.


2nd rnd: Knit.


3rd rnd: *K1. K2tog. Rep from * around. 46 (52) sts.


4th rnd: Knit.


5th rnd: *K2tog. Rep from * around. 23 (26) sts. Break yarn leaving a long end. Draw end tightly through rem sts and fasten securely.

Thursday, May 31, 2012

I want to ride my bicycle, I want to ride my bike...

Okay so here is the deelio, I had broken down, and made Adam bring up my bike. I am going to take up cycling.

Scratch that, I have TAKEN UP cycling. I know this to be true because my thighs and quads are screaming at me.

I don't even know if my bike actually fits me properly or not. Its about 10 years old and its seen better days...but it seems to ride okay, albeit feeling a little bit short in the leg so I don't get a real hard stretch when I peddle on the down stroke.

Either way, I am not complaining.  We have a 'NO WHINY BITCHES ALLOWED' sign on the fridge to keep me motivated and I just purchased a bike computer to better track my advancement.

But I think the real reason behind this is that I HATE gyms, I abhor running, and walking is just freaking boring. So I have loaded up my Blackberry with a crap load of MP3s and bought myself a decent helmet.

Adam is being incredibly supportive, as is my friend Jason who is also a cyclist. He has a professional cyclist he works with so he is sucking all her professional ideas and tips...passing them along to me.  I love networking!

Well...here's me, getting ready to go for a ride. So far I have done about 10 kilometers this week. It may not sound like much, but its a start. Wish me luck!

~tm

Friday, May 18, 2012

Saroyan Shawl

I am in LOVE with this shawl. I love this site!    http://feministy.com/blog/saroyan/

Saroyan ShawlI have been knitting at least two to three leaves every night in order to try to get it done for lovely summer nights in the backyard!

But I think the thing I like the most about this shawl is the designer...Liz Abinante.  You see, unlike many of my other knitter Goddesses, Liz, although experienced and professional, still writes patterns that newbies can take on and actually SUCCEED.  I think Liz should do classes to some of my more experienced knitter friends on how to NOT FORGET that beginner or intermediate knitters like to try new stuff too. So write for them...the advanced knitters can just suck it for a while. 

Here is to my first attempt at anything Lacy! And yes, it is coming along nicely.  Thanks so much Liz...you rock!

~tm