I think with Christianity the folks who are leaving church can be summed up much more succinctly: Peer Groups and Instant Gratification.
To the later, we no longer have to walk the fields and ponder next steps and big decisions. We no longer ‘wait’ for God to speak to us. We go online. We talk to our global neighbour. We get opposing and confusing views and in many cases, with the decline of those going to church, people don’t have sufficient ‘peer groups’ who can relate to similar struggles, questions, and concerns.
The Church is not an attractive place to many people for a myriad of reasons…not the least can be laid at the doorstep of the breakdown of the Catholic untouchable rightness and the laughable moral consequences of Christian televangelists. Who wants to listen to those beseech what is good whilst themselves engaging or covering up the bad? Sadly, those acts do reflect upon even the kindly local Chaplin or lay-minister.
But at the end of it all I still believe it is indeed Patience and Peers…most churches are unable to provide these simple resources anymore.